Tuesday, January 31, 2012

dreams

hey guys

whats up?
how are you all doing?
good i hope!

now i'm sorry i haven't posted in a while, i dont have an excuse, i respect you enough not to lie and make up some dumb excuse so this is the truth

i didnt blog because i've been either too lazy, uninspired or simply .. away from my computer.

so today i wanna talk about dreams

literal and metaphorical ..

literal dreams first

last night i had a collection of strange dreams, i won't get in the details of them but they did get me thinking about the meanings that lie behind dreams

there are people who believe dreams have a spiritual meaning and that they reflect an upcoming event .. now i dont wanna get into that because it's a bit controversial

and there are other people who believe dreams reflect issues stirring up within us, and this is our body's healthy way of expressing our concerns that we carry with us, even in our sleep

i think that's valid, to an extent though.

because a LOT of dreams don't make sense, so sometimes its just a bunch of things that you don't quite understand and you're left wondering whether it means anything or not

my solution to this is dreams are so interesting, and if you spend all your time caught up in analyzing what they mean you're taking away the fun of their complexity. so dont overthink!

now i wanna talk about metaphorical dreams
the ones you should be metaphorically chasing

and although i'm speaking in metaphors now, following what you want is REAL and you should absolutely not stop yourself from getting what you want

i dont wanna sound too much of a cliche, but lets face it, by getting what you want you'd be making yourself the happiest person you could be, and this in return will affect the way you go about your daily life

if you're happy, you'll be nice to others, if you're nice to others, others will be motivated to be nice to others, it's a happy circle that will not stop unless you act like an annoying person and decide to ruin it for everybody

now realistically speaking, the happiness of others is not a task easily achieved BUT what i'm saying to you here is that you can help make others happy by making yourself happy, so why not! you'd be putting yourself first and lets face it thats what we all tend to do, isnt it?

so go on! chase your dreams and do what makes you happy, and never envy others on what they already have, this will create a totally contrasting effect that no body will appreciate.

so what are you still doing here? LEAVE MY BLOG AND CHASE YOUR DREAMS. GO CHASE CHASE CHASE!


hehe.
but seriously...CHASE

until next time

Wednesday, January 25, 2012

a month

hey guys

what's up?

how are you all doing? good i hope!

now this post won't be that serious i guess, idk maybe a little, it's just a low-stress post about recent events i guess

now the reason why it's called a month is because on this day last month i found out a new life has been brought into this world, and i was officially an aunt.

so naturally this day is significant to me

and it got me thinking how much can change in one month

then i took that thought to the next level

how much can change in a week .. a day..

a lot can change

and it's not bad change, it's good sometimes and that's what we want don't we?

change is inevitable and how you respond to change shapes who you are

the vacation i've been on caused a huge disruption and CHANGE to my schedule, i mean i had a fixed schedule before the vacation, i'd go to uni, then work then go to work at weekends too, and you know that was the way to go

but now i just have work, without uni and that's fine, i'm enjoying resting i just dont know what to do with all this change, and i know my schedule will be different next semester

so my way out of it this dead-end resting was to start working on that book i told you guys about, i'm really looking forward to it! and i do hope it ends up doing well, i'm not expecting much success to be honest, but it is a delightful, happy story that i have prepared for everyone and it will be a fun read i hope!

so let's go back to the beginning

on the 25th of december, it was christmas and my nephew was born, and i didn't finish finals yet, i wasn't working on any big project

and on the 25th of january, it's not christmas (well duh), my nephew is growing beautifully (el 7imdella) and i'm on the verge of starting a new semester at college, i'm on the verge of a handsome lift at work (not a promotion, we'll call it a lift) and i'm working on a book

the bottom line is, you can plan out your days to include going out and having a good time, which is great and you should be doing that, i do it all the time, but remember if it's all you do, not much will change during a month, and before you know it, a year has gone by and you're still in the same spot you were in a year before... think about that and be productive!


until next time

Sunday, January 22, 2012

perspective

hey guys
whats up?
how are you all?
good i hope!!

now what i wanna talk about today is a little thing called perspective and how its a big deal.

now obviously, perspective is a big deal, idk i guess i state the obvious a lot on this thing, but lets face it i dont have any genius ideas about people and the way they behave .. i'm just someone with a particular perspective on perspectives .. do you follow?

now the reason having your own perspective is important is because it sets you apart from other people with different perspectives..

now there are 2 ways in which you can have a perspective:

1) you have a perspective about something and you apply that into your day-to-day life and this makes you a valid, rational human being with a sound train of thought, and this will make me like you a lot.

2) you have a perspective about something and you walk around following other people's perspectives just so no one thinks you're weird. and in this case, get out of my blog.

now this is a bit similar to something i posted about earlier, i think it was on a post called "the real winner" now i won't be repeating myself here but if you have an opinion about something don't conceal it, if someone doesn't like your views why would you want to impress them anyway? science shows us that we get along better with those who share our views, so why chase around people who don't agree with us most the time and pretend we like their views, that's quite frustrating.

pretension in general is frustrating but i already talked about that.

now sometimes we're unsure about our perspectives on different things and thats ok, we can explore different thoughts and different possibilities until we find something we click with, or something that we believe is rational

but the goal is to keep an open mind and not to pretend you believe in something that you clearly don't

i think as you guys may have noticed i'm very frank over the views i have and what i like and what i don't like, so hopefully this doesn't offend anyone, it might offend fake people and to be honest i dont give a damn about these people but nevertheless if you're a fake person but you read my blog i still thank you lol, and hey hopefully you'll stop being fake and we can all be real, and live really/realistically ever after!

until next time

Wednesday, January 18, 2012

the bigger person

hey guys

how are you all?

now, i wanna talk about "the bigger person" today, we all know who the bigger person is, we're all expected to be the bigger person but now i have a problem with that

i'm not immature ... well i try not to be .. for the most part .. sometimes.. never. lol no i'm kidding

so you know how people always say they respect mature people and stuff like that? yeh well what are the benefits that mature people get, seriously? let me tell you what benefits we get, we get to be the bigger person. the person who has to disregard the petty crap that immature people put us through, the person who has to pretend they're ok with annoying things that constantly happen by the same people who never learn. and those people, they get away with being immature!

so basically, this leads me to think that being the bigger person simply enables the immature person to CONTINUE being immature! and isn't that a problem??

now i understand the importance of the bigger person, we need people who are calm and collected and mature enough to not give unworthy people any attention they clearly don't deserve but at the same time, how will the immaturity and pettiness ever stop??

so right now we're at a stale mate, we don't want to have to put up with immature people but at the same time we don't want to make them feel like their stupidity has attracted our attention

and this my friends is where nourah comes in with a suggestion if you may..

having problems with an immature brat?

no don't act like them (because you're worth something and you shouldn't belittle your value)

no don't confront them (shocker i know)


see the thing is .. most of the time when people are acting in such an immature way, either its naturally who they are (and it's your problem for knowing them and dealing with it for so long) OR and this is what happens in most cases, they know it bugs you and this is their target..

so here's what you do
and i dont know if this is a cliche or something you guys heard before

and it's very difficult to achieve but once you do you'll be the happiest person ever.

DON'T LET IT BOTHER YOU

idk if you guys know this but you can't change ANYTHING about people's behavior, coz people will do whatever the hell they want, regardless of how you may or may not feel about it, so the smart way out is to constantly remind yourself that people's actions, even if directed at YOU, are entirely their choice, their decision, which is in no way altered or affected by YOU.

the only actions and decisions you can control are your own, and so you must learn how to not let people's dumb, stupid actions that may be silly and petty and so on (the list goes on) bother you!

and once you master this, teach me how to do it lol.

until next time

Sunday, January 15, 2012

a little perfection goes a long way

(this post goes with a special mention to : Mariam Ashkanani, check out her awesome blog http://feelfreeq8.blogspot.com)

(keeping in mind that the things i say aren't directed at her, so in case i say something mean or anything its not directed at mariam i find her awesome hehe)

(i should stop writing stuff between brackets now)

hey guys!

how are you all?

good i hope

i'm good too, wanna know why? WANNA KNOW WHY?????????? ok i'll tell you why sweethearts, its because i finished finals today! frankly finals don't upset me that much (except a couple of days ago when i broke down at a friend's house, lol that was epic, i literally broke down into tears as i was punching numbers into the calculator)

today what i wanna talk about are first impressions! and how they shape our lives a LOT more than we think.

raise your hand if you had a negative first impression on someone. you guys won't know this because you're not seeing me while i type this but i took a moment and raised my hand before i continued to type lol. anyway. we all do it, we're all victims of it and we're all victimized by it, we can't help but love someone or hate them regardless of whether we actually know them or not.

now
idk how people see me. none of us know how people see us, so its not like we can control it, we cant control others' thoughts, and the thing is what if we're right? like what if we hate on someone and we're actually right to do it? we'll feel empowered, smart and highly intelligent.

but stop now..

what if you're wrong? what if this person you're hating on passionately is actually a nice person? what if they deserve a chance? what if they deserve a hello when you see them passing down the hall?

back when i was in school i sensed that some girls didn't like me, and you know when you're in high school your self-esteem is already down the drain so all you would ever need sometimes is just a smile, that smile would indicate many things .. approval, validation, fulfillment because when you think so little of yourself, it is others' opinions that can lift you up

so now imagine that you're that person who holds it in their power to lift someone up and upbring their spirit, would you really walk away from that just because of an unjustified possibly false first impression thats based on no rationality whatsoever?

think about that everytime you hate on someone!

until next time

Thursday, January 12, 2012

nourah is actually very stupid

hey guys

how are you all doing?? good i hope

now i complain a lot and i think you guys picked that up by now but that's cool because i realized i shouldn't complain that much about other people and not pick up my own flaws you know? i'm not perfect and i don't claim to be. so this post is gonna be dedicated to showing you guys how annoying i can be and how i can be the very exact things i hate, just so you guys don't think i'm so stuck up that i can only point out others' flaws and not my own..
alright lets go LIST FORM!

1) i am extremely self-absorbed. the reason why i'm starting with this is because all my blog posts are about me, and what i think, and who i am and who i want to be.. common factor .. "I" so yeh i'm self absorbed and that sucks.

2) i have a very high opinion of my own opinion. like seriously, when i have an opinion about something you can take your opinion and throw it out the window coz chances are thats what i'm gonna do when we have a discussion. unless your opinion is valid of course, but thats unlikely because my opinion is always valid << see what i just did there? (but i do enjoy rational discussions, like if your opinion is interesting and stuff i will take it seriously, dont get me wrong!)

3) i try my best not to argue but when i do, i get really annoying. i mean seriously i get so annoying i think the people in front of me will end up ditching me for life

4) i am incapable of forgiveness. which is wrong, i think i should be capable of it but i'm not, and that doesn't make me strong or anything it makes me idiotic. sometimes even when someone is so dear to me, i can no longer find it in me to forgive them.. and that's sad.

5) i bite my nails... a lot. and its a disgusting habit which will never go away, lord knows i tried, and i've succeeded a couple of times, but it keeps coming back

6) i always assume i'm smart. i know some people think i'm smart, and others don't, i guess we're not quite sure what i am, but i always assume i am and that's extremely condescending. because sometimes there are situations where i don't know what the hell i'm doing, but because i assume i'm smart, i end up all disappointed that i couldn't figure it out, which isn't fair because i don't know everything...

bringing us to our next point.

7) i think i know everything. i'm a know-it-all, someone needs to shut me up.


now that's all i could think of for now, i know i mentioned some pretty annoying things, maybe these are qualities that you absolutely hate about people and i'm sorry if you end up hating me, but these are some of my worst features and i hope you guys can still accept me. i know a lot of the people i know on a personal level read my blog, they probably noticed these flaws in me already (oops) so if i ended up upsetting you because of these things, i truly apologize, and well i hope you still like me (:

until next time

Thursday, January 5, 2012

the right actions for the wrong reasons

hey guys

wazzuuuuuuuuuuuuuuup

no i'm kidding
how are you all doing? good i hope! miss you lots!

i have found a new meaning to happiness and i only feel it when i hold my new born nephew.. but more on that later

today i'm in the mood to really dig in about a lot of issues .. now a constant concern i have while i blog is whether i'm gonna end up repeating myself or overlapping other things i talked about before .. i dont want to bore anyone but chances are since you're reading this you're bored as hell

now i'm the kind of person who believes that there are so many differences between things that a lot of us don't seem to understand.. and this is what i wanna start off with, i'll make a list, kay?

1) there's a difference between loving someone, and being unhealthily obsessed with everything they do

2) there's a difference between LIKING someone, and being in love with them

3) there's a difference between admiring someone, and copying every god damn thing they do (get your own identity and if you're a copycat, get off my blog you disgusting twit)

4) there's a difference between being smart and being someone who just voices other people's original ideas

5) there's a difference between being funny and being rude

6) there's a difference between understanding someone and caring about them

7) finally, there's a difference between paying attention and listening

now the reason i felt the need to iron out these details and tell you guys about these things is because a lot of us don't realize half the things we do and why we do them

and i'm no better than any of you, in fact i'm probably the worst person alive but thats just a result of my highly unresolved self-esteem issues which we will not talk about.

anywayyyy, i won't explain each one in detail because if at least one of those points on that list didn't make you remember that one time where you didn't really know what i'm talking about, then you're a dumb idiot and you shouldn't be on my blog either

(low threshold for idiots over here).

moving right along

i'm not arrogant, i'm not condescending but i respect people who are real with themselves and if you wanna pretend you're some perfect being then piss off, we're all flawed god damn it and the sooner you realize it the better.

also i'm not aggressive wallah i'm nice, bas i hate people who are in a constant state of denial.

also i wanna talk about moody people

what's up with moody people??

like idk if i'm moody or not, i have mood swings i guess, i have those days where i'm not really up to doing anything but i'm still nice you know, like i still talk to the people i like talking to

but for some reason a lot of people don't seem to have that belief anymore
i'm moody so i'll only talk to you when i feel like it

um excuse me? the day god turns me into a toy for you to pick up whenever you god damn want to, that's when you're allowed to think like that.

what else what else what else

finals are soon.

and that's all i'm going to say about THAT topic haha. i've been thinking about the future a lot .. what's gonna happen.. where am i gonna go .. and life changes so fast! you can never predict anything because nothing is ever fixed, and nothing is ever stable, regardless of how much we want it to be

you know what i want? i wanna be big someday .. and i know we all want that, i know we all wanna get rich and have the flashy cars and the fancy mansions but see .. i believe in going the extra mile i believe that you need to be aware of everything around you and when god grants you endless success and a lifetime of glory, flaunting it is not the answer believe me ..

we all like nice things and there are things i want that are unreasonable but at the end of the day.. life is not about the things you're capable of buying.

i was also gonna talk about one more thing but i completely forgot ..

well i remembered something else but maybe it'll come to me while i tell you guys this piece of news.

i have decided to officially work on a book. now for those of you who know me, you'll know that i already wrote a book before but i only made 5 copies and it wasn't publicly distributed due to its extremely personal content, but it was quite an interesting story but what i'm gonna write will be different, and i hope no one asks any questions about my ideas because guess what sweethearts, i ain't got any! like seriously i'm hoping inspiration will hit me during the holidays.

sadly .. i'm no longer inspired.. sometimes i ask myself .. where did i go?

that's all i have to say for today .. idk if you guys were expecting more, i think i rambled on way more than i should have

love you all for reading this..seriously you guys are my fuel.

thank you <3

until next time

Sunday, January 1, 2012

thank you

hey guys

how are you all??

good i hope

yes i blogged 2 days ago but sometimes i've got things i wanna say.. but its a new year and i wanna begin it with wishing you all a happy new year and i just wanna do a quick recap over 2011. kay?

lets go, i'm creating a list of thank yous that i would like to express..

1) thank you to everyone that made me smile in 2011, except the fake smiles .. yeh i don't like those

2) thank you to everyone that promised me they'd stay .. and they actually did

3)thank you to everyone who decided to do something mean to me because you made me learn something new about how bitchy people can be

4) thank you to everyone who made me question my values because it is you who reminded me that everything changes

5) thank you to everyone who thought about me during the year of 2011, it is your thoughts that keep me alive in your memory and that is a huge consolation for me


idk if i have anything more i'd like say regarding this matter .. 2011 was without a doubt one of the most interesting years i've ever had .. and i feel like 2012 will be just as interesting

here's to new beginnings

and finally

until next time